Is a question more powerful than a statement? For parents, this deceivingly simple query may open doors to a fun new way to interact with your children.
In her book Why Am I Perfect?, author Nathalie Beaupré offers an interactive workbook that parents can use with their kids.
The main idea behind this work is the difference between an affirmation and an afformation. For those who are not familiar with the difference, an affirmation is a statement, e.g. I want my child to be creative. An afformation, in contrast, is posed as a question, e.g. why do I want my child to be creative?
When thinking about life, saying an afformation can often prove to be quite useful. The reason for this is because afformations train your mind to look for answers, rather than defending a firm position as expressed through an affirmation.
In Why Am I Perfect, readers are presented with a series of illustrations that contain two afformations per page, such as, “Why do I bring my family so much joy?” or “Why am I grateful to be surrounded by beauty?” The idea is to reflect on the question and then discuss it with your child.
Beaupré, who lives in Aylmer, Q.C. with her family, tells Apartment613 that she first heard about afformations by listening to an interview with Noah St John. After using the afformation technique in her own life, she realised that it could also be a great way for children to build self-esteem.
We caught up with Beaupré to discuss her book. Below is a transcript of our email interview.
Apartment613: What is the difference between afformations and affirmations?
Nathalie Beaupré: Afformations allow you to shape (form) your positive beliefs as opposed to dictating them as firm. It allows more space for growth and creativity, consciously, and subconsciously.
There are four steps to creating a proper afformation, as explained by Noah St. John. These are included in the book as well as many blank pages to trace your and your child’s explorations.
Apt613: How can afformations be used to help raise children?
NB: They can remove mental barriers and develop the inquisitive mind as it proposes a journey into self-inquiry and discovering one’s wholeness. Keeping children curious is essential and that’s what questions do! Afformations are questions that are stimulating and raise compassion.
To start, check out My facebook group page page where there is downloadable “fill in the blanks” sheet (File tab), perfect for the classroom.
The e-book is a nice choice for those only wanting some specific pages printed as they move through their educational themes in the classroom, etc.
Apt613: What has the response to the book been from parents and children?
NB: Parents love the title! Teachers immediately notice the book’s multi-purpose format and how it is meant to engrain positive beliefs around life and relationships.
Yoga teachers and spiritually open minded people love this book. Parents like the idea of the book although sometimes it takes some explaining. Australians seem to like it a lot but I’m not sure why I’ve been receiving requests from there more than other places. It isn’t always well received by Christians because of their “everyone is a sinner and imperfect” mental belief.
A young girl from Bangladesh said she loves how it helps her improve her vocabulary. I wanted the book to hold challenging words, to pollinate learning opportunities, in conversations between adults and children.
Apt613: How do you recommend parents use the book?
NB: Parents can use this tool-book in various ways since a young child may not capture the meaning of every question posed in the book. In the book I include some recommendations such as recording the affirmations as a garland of positive vibes and playing it back for a young child when they slumber. The affirmations presented in my book cover a wide range of educational themes and can easily be incorporated to a variety of discussions. Starting with the afformation “Why Am I Perfect?”
Apt613: What other projects are you working on?
Most of my energy goes toward being a mom. Since writing Why Am I Perfect? I have become a children’s yoga instructor and alongside my husband Eric, have been building community. He practices Reiki and I practice Forensic Healing, two forms of energy healing work much required on the planet now.